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Wednesday, May 8, 2013
Single Parenting Tips!
At times, it'll feel like the hardest thing you've ever done. You'll be forced to make decisions you never wanted to contemplate, and to rely on strength you didn't even know you had. These practical tips for newly single parents will help you persevere through the challenges you face and gain a renewed sense of hope and personal strength for the days ahead.
1. Develop a Support Network
This is absolutely crucial. You need to know who you can depend on right now. Most likely, this network includes your immediate family and friends, but think about other people in your life who might also help you. Making an actual list of who these people are can help remind you that you're not alone. In addition, consider joining a formal support group for single parents in your area.2. Schedule Time to Be Alone
"Me time" is a very powerful tool. It will bring you healing, hope, and perspective. Right now, it’s important that you create pockets of time in your life when you can just be. Time when you’re not accountable for completing a task or responding to questions. Time to sit, to think, to ponder. This is one of the most important single parenting tips, and it's one that you simply must make time for.3. Think Outside the Box
If finding time to yourself sounds impossible, consider some creative solutions, like swapping babysitting time with a neighbor or waking up a half-hour before the rest of your household. The time that you give yourself is precious, and it will be fruitful in helping you to establish reserves of inner strength.4. Be Present with Your Kids
When you're with your children, make an effort to be emotionally present with them. It would be easy to retreat into your heart right now, but this is a time when your children truly need you more than ever. Simple activities like playing a board game or taking a walk together can go along way toward communicating the message that life will go on and they will, indeed, be okay.5. Get the Facts About Your Situation
You might be tempted to make quick decisions right now about where to live and how to handle your finances. However, ignorance in this area can be extremely dangerous, and so can making rash, uninformed decisions. For now, take the time to find out where you stand financially. Gather the necessary papers in order so that when you are emotionally ready to make changes, you'll be prepared and able to make informed decisions.6. Grieve
Expressing your feelings is important to your overall health. Consider writing in a journal or scheduling a regular "date" with a friend to vent, cry, and grieve. Single parents are born of many different situations. Whether you've experienced the loss of a spouse, the end of a marriage, or an adjustment to the dream you once held for your life, it is important to grieve and process the loss before moving on.7. Pay Attention to your Physical Health
This may be a time when you are feeling especially worn down and drained. Combat that by making the effort to eat healthy foods and choose energizing ways to fuel your body. Instead of relying on extra caffeine, try taking a walk at lunchtime. Additionally, getting adequate rest is crucial to your healing and ability to cope. Forgo the temptation to sit in front of the TV. Instead, read a book and retire early.8. Identify What Gives You Strength
In the past, how have you handled challenging times in your life? What most energizes you and reminds you that you possess the strength needed to meet the current challenge? Focus on what has worked for you in the past.9. Let Go of What Isn't Working
Likewise, let go of what has not worked for you. As you move through this first year, reflect on the habits and choices that have not served you well, and decide to change them. In addition, if there are things from the past that you cannot change, let go of unhealthy guilt and remorse.10. Focus on the Positive
This is a time of new growth in your life. Take the time to think about the things that are going well for you. Having a positive attitude - even in the midst of extreme circumstances - can empower you to move ahead and provide your children with a tangible example of the coping strategies you want them to adopt.11. Ask for Help
Of all of the single parenting tips listed here, this one is probably the most difficult to apply. However, you must know that there really are people around you who would love to help! Keep in mind, too, that asking for help and letting others into your life is a gift to yourself and to the person assisting you. Sharing in one another’s lives during difficult times affirms our human connection and brings a sense of purpose to everyday living.30 Relationship Tips for Woman Who Love Men!
30 Relationship Tips For Women Who Love Men
Some thoughts to make you smile, perhaps rethink your current choices, and/or prepare for future relationships.
Most of these apply equally to BOTH genders...
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Most of these apply equally to BOTH genders...
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1) If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
2) If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay....
3) Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Likewise, don't make excuses for your own bad behviour. Take action, make change, and created the life you deseve.
4) Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache. Trust and value your own feminine wisdom.
5) Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be. And don't try to change him either, it just doesn't work. The only person you can change is yourself. As painful as it may be, sometimes it's better to step out of a bad relationship and step into your own happiness.
6) Slower is better. Some of the greatest love stories of all time took years to develop. Sure, love at first sight may be romantasized in the movies, but, like Rome, enduring love is not built in a day...
7) Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy. (That means you need to find your own happiness first... And remember: Happiness is a journey, not a destination.)
8) If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve, then heck no, you can't 'be friends.' A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
9) Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
10) Don't stay because you think 'it will get better.' You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
11) The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
12) Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't take responsibility when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?
13) Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
14) Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you; if something bothers you, speak up.
15) Be aware that healthy relationships are built on trust, and that trust takes time to develop.
16) You cannot change anyone else's behavior. Change comes from within.
17) Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are, even if he has more education or a better job. And don't ever make him feel less important than you are either.
18) Do not make him into a quasi-god; he's a man, nothing more, nothing less.
19) Never let a man define who you are. (Be a queen, full of your own power and glory!)
20) Never borrow someone else's man, if he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
21) A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you. (If you are unsure as to what love looks like, there are 21 wonderful insights to guide you here.)
22) All men are NOT dogs. (But men beware: bad behaviour may land you in the doghouse LOL!)
23) You should not be the one doing all the bending, compromise is a two-way street.
24) You need time to heal between relationships. There's nothing useful about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.
25) You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you. A relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals. Look for someone complementary, not supplementary.
26) Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.
27) Allow him to miss you sometimes. If a man always know where you are all the time, and you're always readily available to him - he may take you for granted. Remember you have your own life to live; it may not always include him.
28) Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't listen to you and try to meet your needs; keep him in your radar but get to know others.
29) Become a BITCH (Babe In Total Control of Herself).
30) Above all: love yourself first!
Good luck!
2) If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay....
3) Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Likewise, don't make excuses for your own bad behviour. Take action, make change, and created the life you deseve.
4) Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache. Trust and value your own feminine wisdom.
5) Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be. And don't try to change him either, it just doesn't work. The only person you can change is yourself. As painful as it may be, sometimes it's better to step out of a bad relationship and step into your own happiness.
6) Slower is better. Some of the greatest love stories of all time took years to develop. Sure, love at first sight may be romantasized in the movies, but, like Rome, enduring love is not built in a day...
7) Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy. (That means you need to find your own happiness first... And remember: Happiness is a journey, not a destination.)
8) If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve, then heck no, you can't 'be friends.' A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
9) Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
10) Don't stay because you think 'it will get better.' You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
11) The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
12) Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't take responsibility when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?
13) Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
14) Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you; if something bothers you, speak up.
15) Be aware that healthy relationships are built on trust, and that trust takes time to develop.
16) You cannot change anyone else's behavior. Change comes from within.
17) Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are, even if he has more education or a better job. And don't ever make him feel less important than you are either.
18) Do not make him into a quasi-god; he's a man, nothing more, nothing less.
19) Never let a man define who you are. (Be a queen, full of your own power and glory!)
20) Never borrow someone else's man, if he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
21) A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you. (If you are unsure as to what love looks like, there are 21 wonderful insights to guide you here.)
22) All men are NOT dogs. (But men beware: bad behaviour may land you in the doghouse LOL!)
23) You should not be the one doing all the bending, compromise is a two-way street.
24) You need time to heal between relationships. There's nothing useful about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.
25) You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you. A relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals. Look for someone complementary, not supplementary.
26) Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.
27) Allow him to miss you sometimes. If a man always know where you are all the time, and you're always readily available to him - he may take you for granted. Remember you have your own life to live; it may not always include him.
28) Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't listen to you and try to meet your needs; keep him in your radar but get to know others.
29) Become a BITCH (Babe In Total Control of Herself).
30) Above all: love yourself first!
Good luck!
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